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The update we have been waiting for… March 14, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — harrisonandmommy @ 1:47 am

Well, I had my ultrasound for weight/size today.  I thought today would never come.  First of all, I had an appointment with my midwife this morning and she checked and I am a good 2 cm and 70 % effaced but the baby’s head is still high.  She also measured me at 42 cm uterus size. So she made her recommendations of what to do to get this going.  I left very excited to do everything she said to do.  Then I had my ultrasound a few hours later at another office.  Here is how the conversation went:

Ultrasound Tech: “You are never going to believe the size.”

Me: “Try me.”

Ultrasound Tech: “According to my measurements, 10 lbs, 7 ounces.”

Me: “That is SO not what I was hoping you would say.”

That is exactly what Harrison weighed when he was born.  This baby is measuring that 3 weeks before it is due and Harrison was a week late.  Now, I know the ultrasound tech can be off, but even if she is 2 lbs off that is still a good size baby.  Anyway, the other measurement they are looking for in that ultrasound is the size of the abdomen.  Apparently all of the measurements, including that one, are off the charts they are so big. 

Needless to say, I will be scheduling a C-section.  I was SO hoping for a VBAC.  I would rather have a healthy baby by C-section than risk me or the baby with a VBAC.  I will find out more tomorrow when I talk to the midwife and doctor.  Another thing the midwife said that I thought was weird was she said usually they wait until around 39 weeks to schedule the C-section.  Hello…I’m sure the baby is fine.  The ultrasound tech said from what she could tell everything was great.  The baby was practicing its breathing and all looked well.  If I wait until 39 weeks, this is going to be a GINORMOUS baby.  Oh, well.  There is another advantage to waiting that long, my house should be done by then!

That’s the news on the baby front.

On the Harrison front.  He has thrown up twice tonight and is just a limp little dude.  He is just not himself.  If he is still throwing up tomorrow, off to the pediatrician’s again.  I wish I knew what was wrong.  The pediatrician last night said everything just pointed to an infected throat, which I think has really increased his gag reflex and is what is making him throw up.  That’s my Dr. Mommy for you.

I hope others are having a better day than us!


EDIT:  If you are going to be a total jerk about my situation and essentially think I’m wimping out by having another C-section, don’t bother trying to comment.  I’m not going to approve them.  I need support right now, not your stupid critiscm.  Have you considered that you may not know my history with trying to birth my son?  And, yes, I do know that I make big babies and there is nothing wrong with me.  I don’t remember blaming myself for having big babies. Did you know that GD babies tend to have larger shoulders and thus get stuck with their head out and the doctors have to break their clavical to get them out?  Did you know that I don’t give a flying crap about what you have to say to me unless it is going to be helpful? 

When you walk into my house the first thing you see is a sign that says “Be nice or go away.”  Learn from that.  That is a motto I live by.

I refuse to be attacked on my blog (this wouldn’t be the first time).  I don’t mind helpful critiscm or words of advice.  If you are going to be just plain rude about it, leave me alone.



12 Responses to “The update we have been waiting for…”

  1. Angela Says:

    I am sorry. I don’t know your history, like you said, I had diet-controlled gd for my first two pgs, and I had a 2nd cs because we went past dates according to my ob. It was really hard. My son, at 8lbs 7 oz,and almost 41 weeks, wasn’t ready to be born. We had jaundice and breathing issues (and I am VERY sure about my dates.). It was also hard to tell my older child (who was three) that she couldn’t sit on momma’s lap. She really hated the baby for that for awhile. And another thing? They didn’t tell me that I should shave myself. Nothing quite as humiliating as sitting in that stupid recliner thing and having another woman shave you with a nice dry sub-Bic razor, when I could have taken car of it myself, if only I had known. If anything, it was that kind of stuff that bothered me the most about my second section, that, and the fact that I chose my son’s birthday. Over three years later that still bothers me. I know that you will do what you feel you must, and if you feel that you must delete this post, then by all means do so, but I do wish you the best–a healthy baby and a healthy momma. And I do hope that you are not planning any more babies, because trying to find someone who will attend a VBA2C attempt is very very hard, indeed, and the risks of placenta issues really do become more serious with each surgery. I wish you peace,

  2. Sandra Says:

    well, I’m grateful that you can even have your babies! Just think, if this was 100 years ago, you probably would have died having Harrison, and he might not have made it either!!!! So thank Heavens that you are able to bring these beautiful spirits into the world thanks to modern medicine! Love you!!!!!

  3. Amanda Says:

    Hey there! Keep your spirits up, you know what is best for YOUR body and YOUR baby. If VBAC doesn’t feel right don’t do it! I had two sections with my kids and did it for very specific reasons. Don’t let anyone cloud your judgments. Hang in there and we will be thinking and praying for you. Oh and I sure hope Harrison gets well soon, I too hate seeing my kids sick.

  4. Jamie Says:

    I know life is not fun right now. I cannot even imagine what you must be going through physically and mentally. I wish you still lived here. You were one of the best friends I have had since I moved here. I sure could use a night out at the Cheesecake Cafe. I really hope Harrison gets better quickly. Casen has been under the weather too. Hang in there!

  5. emmakirst Says:

    I think your doing the right thing, I wouldn’t hesitate on having a c-section this time around. Especially given the estimated size of this baby, both you and baby could suffer. I’m hoping all goes well and that this baby isn’t too Ginormous for you 🙂 At least you see the positive side you’ll be able to get everything done for your new house.

    I hope Harrison is back to himself soon! Poor little guy, most likely that is what’s wrong with him with his throat, makes sense to me.

  6. Chas Says:

    I guess I missed the drama…I’m a little late in commenting. I hope that comment, whatever it said, didn’t upset you too much. I’m guessing it was anonymous…most jerky comments are. Don’t listen to them…if they really believed in what they’re saying they wouldn’t care to back it up with their name.

    I’m sorry that you’re disappointed about not getting to try the VBAC. If it makes you feel any better, I’ve had a vaginal birth…and it’s not all that great, lol. It hurts!! Seriously though, I’m happy that you’re not going to force the VBAC issue since you now know that the baby is likely very large. VBACs are scary enough without adding that large size to the equation. There will be more babies (I’m guessing), and maybe you’ll get your chance some day if you really want it. God bless!!

  7. Blossom Says:

    As a childbirth educator, I wanted to offer you my empathy and compassion on the loss of your VBAC dream. I also had a cesarean surgery. I also had vbac dreams.
    All of the information that you provided regarding stuck shoulders and shoulder dystocia is academically correct; the breaking of the clavicle etc… I don’t know if you are aware however, that using ultrasound to determine weight carries a 20% error factor. Just something for you to filter into your equation. I’m sure if you deliver a bigger baby by cesarean you’ll have no doubt about your decision, but if your baby is smaller….it eats at you. Your birth will be with you for a long time. You are always entitled to a second opinion….always. I recognize that you are making the decisions for the safest birth for your child.

    Also I wanted to point out, that one cesarean does not have to be the same as a prior cesarean. If you visit the ICAN (International Cesarean Awareness Network ) website, you may be surprised to learn about things that you can do to improve your cesarean experience. Changes you can make in the hospital environment…things you might not have thought of.

    I also wanted to share with you that I did have a VBAC with a 10 lb 4oz baby. Sure it hurt, but it was amazing….and I’d do it over in a minute over having another cesarean. Really, I’d like to live the rest of my life without ever having another surgery. I had a care provider who knew how to handle my son’s “sticky shoulders”. I didn’t know he was going to be 10 lbs, but I wasn’t afraid. There is more information out there, then your doctor gave you. You’re a smart lady. You have to decide whether to open the doors or close them, which ones to open.

    I hope your journey to this baby’s arrival is peaceful. And just know that if you never get that opportunity to birth your baby into the world, I’ll be sad with you. Its worthy of the sadness, even when you have a healthy child. Its similar to looking at your infertile friend who is delighted with her adopted child. Happy? Of course! But she’ll never know what it feels like to have those memories of those fetal kicks, or the hiccups with her for the rest of her life. You know how that feels, as do I. And I can be both happy and sad for her too.

  8. Sharon Says:

    I’m guessing I’ve known you better than some of your other commentators, and I can definitely vouch for your non-wimpiness 🙂 You have so many blog hits because I check 10 times a day to see what is going on. I only wish you didn’t live so far away because I would love to take the little man so you could get some rest or work done on the house! Mattias really loves watching Harrison’s videos.

    I’m just glad to hear that despite everything else, both you and the babe are HEALTHY! And yes, the number one goal should be to keep it that way! The whole reason we have and use medical professionals is because they know what to suggest for each woman and situation after looking at ALL the factors. Consider the alternative – without your awesome midwife and specialist GD doc…you’d have to follow the advice of random blog comments from people you have never met. Hmmm…I know who I would want to listen to!

    Good luck with your future appointments and thanks for taking the time to keep us updated when I’m sure you have a zillion other things to do…

    ps – if things don’t work out with more pregnancies, have you considered growing your family like your parents did?

  9. ann Says:

    I recently had a cs with my first and am hoping for a VBAC in the future. But I know some of the info. can seem scary. One lady commented earlier that VBAC was scary anyway- in low risk preg. there is a LESS than 1% chance of uterine rupture and even then the mom and baby are usually fine. The risk of uterine rupture in VBAC is less than risk of rupture from amniocentesis! and they do that all the time. Your situation may have more risks, but I just wanted to point out to others that VBAC isnt that risky with most pregnancies.

    The most important thing , I think, is that women know the facts and then make the decision that is best for them and their baby. Thats all any of us can do. No one should criticize a woman for trying to do what she thinks is best.

    I agree with the lady above who recommended http://www.ican-online.org. They have great info. And on going full term…. I know that going into labor spontaneously has a lot of benefits for the mom and baby. I have actually read that the baby starts to loose weight after39-40 weeks, not continue to gain
    ( I dont know about GD babies though). Also I have a very small friend who had a 10lb. HBAC baby – it is amazing what ours bodies can do.

    Best wishes to you and your baby for a healthy and happy delivery. Thanks for sharing your story with so many women and I am sorry if people have judged you for doing what you think is right .

  10. whimsicalchaos Says:

    mean people suck… I’m so sorry you had to deal with mean people… here poor Harrison is sick… you are hugely preggie… and then you get this news… I’m so sorry… I know that you were really looking forward to having a VBAC…

    But hang in there… and everything will work out the way God wants it to… I will be praying for ya hun…

  11. Elise Says:

    Devynn, so sorry your VBAC dream didn’t come to fruition. But what is most important is your health and the health of that precious baby. You need to do what feels right to YOU!

    Hope Harrison is feeling better and that the house is nearly ready for a beautiful family.


  12. Lowa Says:

    Hey I just found your blog and I know you have had Sterling by now. I just wanted to comment on this.

    I am surprised that people have been rude or mean to you about your decisions, etc. I don’t get that. I am VERY opinionated and very set in my ways.I have VERY strong opinions on birthing, breastfeeding, home schooling, etc.

    However, I also understand that every pregnancy is different, and people do what is best for them. I was blessed enough to never need a C-section with any of my four kids. I also know of women who have needed them every single time and have had six kids! So no worries. You do what you need to do and everything will work out. Sometimes I feel like women are “tricked” by their Docs and given C-sections when they are not truly the only choice, the doc is just lazy and wanted to get it done. In your case, that is clearly not it. YOu are right about shoulders getting stuck. My daughter was only 8 lbs 7 oz and she got stuck and it was very scary. Her shoulders were caught behind my pubic bone. One of my sons was 8 lbs 12 oz and I popped him right out, so you just never know!!

    Enjoy those precious boys! And good for you telling people what for! This is YOUR blog, no one should mistreat you on it. Or off of itl! LOL

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